Healing is a lonely journey!

Yes, my previous posts were all about the benefits of therapy and how healing from our patterns is the way to become the best version of ourselves. But also yes, I stick to my (maybe) controversial opinion that healing can be a lonely path to take for some! 

This is a note on the personal journey that I am currently undertaking from loneliness to belongingness as I make sense of the solitude that often overshadows this journey. 

At multiple points during my therapeutic journey, I have experienced a deep solitude and an ‘aloneness’ that often engulfed me, which has also discouraged me from working on myself further. I expected the universe to shower me with everything I wanted at my finish line - more meaningful deep connections, success on every front, and the happiness I longed for. While I am happy and more at peace with myself, it has been challenging to find my footing in a world that avoids this taxing inner work. 

It can be in the form of not receiving the support and empathy I wanted from ones I considered close while I was delving into unprocessed trauma and emotions…or it could have been the number of connections I lost due to this process as my healing self slowly grew intolerant to the patterns my previous version reveled in. Regardless of the ways I lost people around me, it did evoke a feeling that maybe ignorance is truly blissful. Taking on a journey that does not take priority for people around you can be daunting as they may struggle to relate or offer the support you need. Therapy is hard work, but it can only get more challenging without the right system of support around you. Swimming against the tide can only get you so far before you question your motivation. 

You can be surrounded by people but still feel alone as you're speaking a different emotional language or your struggles aren't acknowledged or understood. Additionally, witnessing others avoid or dismiss introspection can be disheartening and make you question why you ever took up the burden of self-awareness. This can be especially true when healing from attachment trauma as you continue to attract people who may align more with your previous dysfunctional patterns. This conflict of being ‘stuck’ between healing and familiarity of old chaos is often unspoken about. 

I recognise the privilege in my tone at being able to afford and engage with resources that can support me in my growth, and it has been always humbling to observe people’s resilience and courage in working on themselves even when the odds are against them. I have realised with time that..joining a community of like-minded individuals or finding a crowd that believes in the same mindset of emotional growth that you do can be immensely beneficial. These spaces offer understanding, validation, and encouragement as you navigate your healing journey. 

Remember that it's okay to prioritise your well-being and seek out the support you need, even if it means distancing yourself from the ones that you considered close until then. It is brave and I see you for the efforts you put in :) 

It can get lonely here, and just like it takes a village to raise a child, sometimes.. it takes a community to find the meaning in your healing journey!